Some friends and I were talking the other day about beauty. And we asked ourselves a tough question.
Are we lying to girls and boys when we tell them that looks don't matter?
Because the truth is...they do. At least in the real world. If you look at statistics, attractive people usually get the better job, more attention, etc. Then we got into the conversation that went something along these lines...
How come you see a princess with a frog but never a froggette with a prince?
(Yes, I realize I just made up the word for froggette to describe a female frog.) But seriously, how come you see a beautiful woman with an averaging looking man but you almost never see a good looking man with an average looking woman? We asked the question and the room fell silent.
We had no answers. Nothing. And personally, I still don't have any answers.
That's why I'm putting these two questions to you. Do you think looks matter? Why do you think we see more beautiful women with the average Joe, but rarely see a good looking man with an average Jane?
i think Craig commented on this once.... my opinion is this. Guys are much more confident in boasting about having a prettier woman than someone more average. Girls really care more about a kind heart than the looks...thus pretty girls will love an average guy with an above average heart but 'hot' guys can't get past ego and pride to like an average woman. on the other note: looks only matter to the person and I do think you have to be attracted to each other, even if the world doesn't think either of you are attractive.
ReplyDeleteI see "average" looking people get married and fall in love every day. Heck, I see "ugly" looking people get married and fall in love every day. I guess I think that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" when it comes to love. Everyone is attracted to something different.
ReplyDeleteYet, I get what you are talking about when it comes to the assessment of how a person looks. Looks do matter, but everyone loves someone and someone will love you just the same.
I think you're right, Shauna. I was talking to someone about what I said here and they pretty much said the same thing. Guys get their ego stroked by what they have or who they have on their arm (not necessarily their own looks). Whereas women don't. We have our own issues when it comes to self-esteem, but I don't think that's one of them. Instead, we just want someone to love us. If we find them attractive, it doesn't matter what others think.
ReplyDeleteAnon- Good points. And wise words.
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